This week, I want to provide a process for making decisions that are led by the heart. Making decisions that are led by our heart typically supports our overall happiness. These suggestions are taken from an article written by Paige Burkes titled Head vs. Heart.
The first step in this process is to pause and be still. We can't hear our heart if we don't stop to listen to what it's saying. Slow down, pause, be still and listen to it's wisdom.
The next step is to consider whether the decision supports your highest values. I've discussed in previous posts identifying your core values. Health, happiness, family, balance, adventure and spirituality are examples of core values. What are your highest values and does this decision support them?
Uncover all the available options. Allow your creative juices to flow and be open to alternative possibilities in the decision-making process. What are all of the options and how do these options factor into your values?
Let your monkey mind have it's say. Your mind will drive you crazy until you at least let it speak. List all of the pro's and the con's. Let your monkey mind get out all of its scary, fear-based thoughts.
Take some time. Take a deep breath, meditate, pray, take a walk, connect with nature. Turn it over and ask for your highest and best good. Listen for your answer, pay attention to the assignments and show up for them.
Reflect on everything you have uncovered and notice how it feels in your body. This exercise is not for your mind. Your heart speaks through your body. If you listen it will give you an answer.
Make your decision and take small right steps in that direction. As you move forward, continue to assess how your decision and your results feel in your body and in your heart and adjust as necessary. Be willing to continually reassess and make new choices.
Remember to use the S.T.O.P. technique...Stop, Take 3 deep breaths, Observe, Practice gratitude. Slow down enough each day to hear your inner voice and the voice of God.
Be grateful for new experiences, new opportunities, and for all of the new things you are learning. As Paige Burkes writes, "If things aren't working out, be grateful that you're one step closer to knowing what does work in your life."