Lately, I've taken a few classes that served as great reminders for me. Sometimes it can be easy to forget, fall off the bandwagon or get complacent. This week I want to re-discover a tool that I have used for many years and have found to be a useful one. This is a repeat of one of my early posts. I hope it serves as either a great reminder or as a new tool for your toolbox.
What is your typical response when you become frustrated, angered or upset? Maybe you are having a disagreement with your spouse or coworker, or you are 'having one of those days' with your kids, or your family member is pushing one of your buttons. It's easy to get sucked into the hot mess, engage and probably make it worse. Sure, you might start out trying to be reasonable, but if your buttons are being pushed it can be hard to maintain composure. Even if we do, we usually walk away stewing and fretting about it in an unproductive way. I've learned several amazing tools that have helped me to handle situations like these with a lot more grace. I want to share one of them with you today.
This is a tool is simple, easy and works fast. Whenever you are confronted with a situation that is challenging and runs the risk of getting the better of you, repeat to yourself out loud or silently, "the God in me is loving the God in ____" and insert the name of the person(s) impacted. Repeat this over and over for a few minutes until you feel the shift happening inside of you. Even if you have to grit your teeth and choke it out at first, do it anyway. You will be surprised how after saying it a few times, your own thoughts and energy will begin to shift.
Now the super cool thing about this tool is that it not only begins to shift you, it also starts shifting the other person, and they are not even consciously aware that you are doing it. You will notice that they tend to calm down and that their energy becomes more positive and calm. This tool is amazing and so easy to do! Remember how thoughts become things and impact our environment and what comes back at us? Well, this is another powerful example of how this can work.
Here is how Spiritual teacher Pamla Ashlay-McPherson describes this tool, "People address each other from the part of themselves that has been programmed by this earth life; they forget they are spirit first encased in a body and when we address each other from our spirit to their spirit we speak greater truths. So next time someone is yelling or upset; be still, and in your head repeat over and over, 'the God in me is loving the God in you' and they will stop; as it will bring them to a greater truth without realizing it."
Next time you are in a challenging situation that threatens your ability to stay in a calm and loving place use this tool, repeat...the God in me is loving the God in you...and feel and watch what happens.
Please let me know how you like this post in the comments below. I would also love to hear your experience once you put this tool into action!
"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience." The quote is by Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, a French philosopher and Jesuit priest.