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I Need To Talk About Charlottesville

8/15/2017

I just finished watching a documentary piece covering the horrific events that took place this past weekend in Charlottesville. The video interviewed leaders of the white supremacy group. It was disturbing to my core. I am sick to my stomach. It was hard to finish watching and hard to fathom that there are people in our country who think that way. I want to sit and cry.

I wanted to turn it off. A part of me wants to go back to living in my bubble. Part of me wants to pretend that I didn't see it and that it isn't happening, but I can't. I've done that for too long. I need to write about it, I need to do something about it. My white privilege allows me to walk away from the conversation, to say no I don't want to be uncomfortable. To go back to my life.

I feel vulnerable writing about it. What if I say the wrong thing? What if I don't get it right. What if I don't find the words to express what I'm thinking and feeling? But I, and too many others, have remained silent. I've chosen to play it safe, to let others engage while I sat on the sidelines feeling sad and overwhelmed. Afraid to use my voice, afraid to speak my truth. As long as I wasn't outwardly being racist than I didn't really need to say or do anything more right? What I've come to decide is that ignoring it is just as bad as supporting it. That silence is compliance.

Author, Glennon Doyle, expressed her thoughts in a Facebook post. Here is an excerpt from her post.

"It is no longer enough (it has never been enough) for white America to pat ourselves on the back because - at least we are not marching skinheads. No, we all have to get very, very humble. We have to look into our minds and hearts and families and schools and communities and together, we need to identify how we, as members of white culture- benefit from the system those neo-nazis desperately seek to protect.

White supremacy is the system that offers many of us picket fences and successful, cozy schools and healthy food and reliable medical care and protection from law enforcement and clear skies ahead while so many of our siblings of color are disallowed these things. The system we live and breathe and move in is white supremacy. The American dream is largely based upon it."

Brene Brown offers up the following, "The stories we don't own collectively, own us. The story of our country is white supremacy. We haven't had the courage to step in and own the story. The pain and discomfort of owning that story is nothing compared to the pain and discomfort of not owning it. Our work right now is to call it what it is."

I believe that the world will be saved by the human spirit. The ability that each of us has to be brave and courageous. The ability that each of us has to be greater than him or herself. The ability to rise up from our ordinary self to be something greater, something extraordinary. It's an elevation of us beyond ourselves. It is getting out of our comfortable bubble and into the discussion. It's stepping out from the sidelines and into the game. It's raising our consciousness with love, with curiosity and with accountability.

I invite you into the discussion. I invite and encourage you to be brave and courageous. Let's help each other bring awareness to this issue with love and curiosity.

Here is the documentary that I watched.
www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/charlottesville-vice-documentary_us_59930983e4b09071f69cc8f6?utm_campaign=hp_fb_pages&utm_source=main_fb&utm_medium=facebook&ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063

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Make Growing A Daily Priority

8/8/2017

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I remember clearly when there was a day (or a year or two) where all I could manage to do was to muddle through and survive each day. I was knee deep with diaper changing, feeding, entertaining, keeping safe, teaching, cleaning, bathing, reading, laundry and trying to manage a household of 5 plus a dog. I also remember the days before I decided to stay home with my kids and I was juggling all of that plus managing a client base and a career. And before that I remember being a young adult and how exhausted I was working to build a career and find my way as an adult, as a friend, as a girlfriend/wife, as a daughter and a sister. I have to admit I wasn't so much focused on growing each day, as I was on surviving each day.

Fact of the matter is I was learning and growing, but I wasn't necessarily intentionally working at it, or focusing on growing, or determining where I wanted to focus my attention. I was focused on the tasks at hand. Yes, growth came a long with it and yes, I had goals, but as I reflect my growth goals centered around my career and what was needed to grow and change in my career. I didn't spend much time focusing on my own personal growth. Growth, outside of my career, came based on what life dealt versus what I sought out.

Is this just me, or can you relate to some degree? It was fairly easy to have years slip by without really stretching myself. Operating under the same status quo, having some of the same personal experiences happen over and over. Growing and stretching takes an openness, a willingness to put forth some extra effort. A willingness to own that you aren't perfect and have some things that you can work on to grow and expand yourself.

Certainly, some stages in life are more demanding of your time and energy and it's hard to do more than just survive, but mostly our busyness and our priorities are dictated by us. We can always make room for something if we make it a priority. I think it's important that we make growing a priority. It doesn't have to be huge, but taking a step each day to focus on your personal growth. Even if it's just reading a short paragraph, or watching a short video clip, or reading a blog post, maybe picking up supplies for a new hobby. Whatever it is, no matter how small it is, focus on how to grow a little bit each day. I often say...take small right steps everyday.

I once heard a suggestion that ten cents from every dollar you earn should go to help someone else, and ten cents from every dollar you earn should go to help invest in yourself. Tithing for yourself, to help you grow and improve, what an awesome concept! Maybe to help you attend a personal growth seminar or a retreat that you've had your eye on, or to participate in a mission trip, or to take a class on painting, or to purchase tools for your new hobby, or even to take a vacation. Investing in yourself, I love it! We think about investing in our future all the time don't we? Investing to buy a house, investing for retirement, investing for college funds, is there an account in there for yourself? I know it's hard, but I love the idea of investing in our future selves.

I believe that we are here as students of life. We are here to grow, to learn lessons, to have experiences, to remember. Don't let yourself become personally stagnant. Don't lose track of who your are and what your soul needs in the busyness of life. Carve out time for you to grow and shift and change and expand and learn each day. Some days in big ways and some days in small ways. I love this saying and I don't know who said it, "Each day try to be better than you were yesterday and tomorrow be better than you were today."

What are you going to do today to grow, to stretch yourself? I would love to hear how you make time for yourself to grow and what you are currently focusing on for your growth. Please leave me a comment or send me an email, I would love to hear from you!

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Shift Your Done Point

7/31/2017

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Have you ever had a fun event on the calendar that you were looking forward to? Maybe it's something big like a vacation, or maybe it's going out on a boat, going fishing or having friends over. Sometimes preparing for it can be full of tasks, but usually the anticipation of the event propels us forward and we excitedly plan and prepare.

Then the actual event happens and typically when it's over there are additional tasks that need to be completed. The trip home and the unpacking, the cleaning up of equipment, the washing of dishes, etc. I don't know about you, but these "post event" tasks are the pits! It can be easy to let them shift my joy of the event itself. Sometimes I even convince myself of not doing that fun item because the task of putting things back together discourages my interest. Ever felt like that? I would sabotage my happiness of the event, even dread it coming to an end because of this habit.

Little mental shifts can make a huge difference in our experience. Little tricks and strategies that shift our focus, our expectation and minds can lead us to a whole different way to enjoy and appreciate an event. A little strategy that I recently have been experimenting with is called shifting your done point. It goes like this...instead of the fun event ending when the actual event itself is over, shifting your done point until after the "clean up tasks" are completed. Staying in a contended, happy, blissful place of enjoying the whole experience rather than just a segment of the experience.

Now I know this may sound a little silly or simplistic, but something like shifting our mental done point for the "fun event" can actually change the experience. It tosses these burdensome feeling tasks into the same category as the planning and preparation tasks that we don't typically mind as much because we anticipate the event. Shifting the done point and continuing to celebrate the goodness, the fun, the joy. Next time consider setting your done point out further until the clean up tasks are done.

Here's the clincher for me...practice gratitude and appreciation for the fun event and all of the things that went into it while completing the clean up tasks. This helps me to savor, replay and enjoy the event over again in my mind while performing the not so fun tasks of putting things back together again. Now you've not only accomplished the clean up tasks, but you've also shifted this good experience from your short-term memory into your long-term memory by savoring it and helped re-wire your brain for happiness.

This small intentional practice can cause a big mind shift allowing for more happy and joyful moments. Give it a try, I would love to hear what you think!

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You Are Greater Than Your Feelings

7/25/2017

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Last week's post discussed taking 100% responsibility for our experiences. I want to explore that concept a little bit more in this week's post.

Thoughts create feelings. Feelings create our behavior, response and experience. Behavior reinforces thoughts. The illustration above gives an example of how a scenario can play out from thought to feeling to action to result/experience. Another useful example is this one.

Negative thought...I don't have any friends
Negative emotion/feeling...Experiencing sadness or depression
Negative behavior...Acting gloomy and having no fun
Negative response/result/experience...Being avoided by others

As writer Debbie Hampton explains, "Your emotions and feelings play a powerful role in how you experience and interact with the world because they are the driving force behind many behaviors, helpful and unhelpful. It’s possible to react to emotions and the feelings they evoke which are guided by unconscious fear-based perceptions which you may not buy into anymore, yet you’re living your life, making decisions and behaving according to these out-dated tendencies. Living unaware like this almost always leads to problems and unhappiness in the long run."

Being aware of this cycle allows us to be able to respond instead of simply react to a situation. This allow us to remain in a state of peace, of balance and of integrity. By choosing your feelings and behaviors according to who you want to be and how you want to live your life versus reacting to them and then not being in alignment. In the gap between our thoughts, our feelings and our actions we have powerful opportunity to design the direction, the course, the path that our life will take for the better or for the worse.

Finding the underlying thought pattern is critical to being able to resolve problematic reactions. By shining a light on the cycle of our thoughts, feelings and behavior we can take a moment to pause before responding.

The following is an excerpt from an article written by Peter Shepard, a spiritual teacher and psychotherapist. It explains and gives a nice example of the thought, feeling, action, result cycle.

You are not responsible for everything that happens to you (although often you may contribute to it.) But you are responsible for how you react to these events, how you experience them and move on from there. Your reaction has three facets:

A mental reaction, how you interpret the situation, which is often a replay of old stuff you've attached to as part of your identity.
An emotional reaction that results from your interpretation, so you feel happy, angry, sad, or frustrated.
And a behavioral reaction: based on your feelings you act in a certain way, such as jumping for joy, getting away as soon as possible, or punching the other guy's nose.

It might seem that the circumstances caused your emotional reaction, or even that it caused your behavior. So, if your girlfriend criticizes your manners, you might get angry and leave the restaurant. Later, you may feel that your girlfriend made you angry or that you had to leave the restaurant because of her. But really it was your belief that no one has a right to question your rightness, such as the way you eat with your mouth open. "That's rude and intolerable."

So you created your own reaction with what you told yourself. It may have been instant and below the level of your consciousness but there was your voice inside telling you these things. Actually, though, you did have other choices. You could have actually listened and understood her viewpoint - you would then still have a girlfriend and have learned something useful. And your girlfriend would have renewed respect and love for you.

Your inner voice can talk you into a lot of trouble or it can create a positive outlook that changes your life experience. The secret is to stay in the moment, to stay conscious, and spot your voice when it is replaying old tapes and talking nonsense, when it is being intolerant, exaggerating or over-reacting.

You are made of love; when your thoughts are judgmental and resisting what is, then you can recognize that is not the real you. So my advice is: if it's not love, STOP, gather yourself in the moment and reconsider.

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Ho’oponopono

7/11/2017

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Have you ever heard of the Ho'oponopono technique? It's a powerful healing, clearing and forgiveness practice that I have been learning about and beginning to put into practice. It originated in Hawaii and was originally taught by Morrnah Nalamadu Simeona. It's a super easy and super powerful self-healing and self-improvement practice that is now promoted by Joe Vitale and Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len.

Dr. Hew Len was a student of Morrnah Simeona. He simplified, updated and improved the technique and was the first person who got documented and confirmed proof of the healing miracles of the Ho'oponopono technique.

From 1984 to 1987 Dr. Hew Len worked as a staff psychologist for Hawaii State Hospital overseeing a high security ward housing male criminally insane patients. These patients committed murders, rapes, assaults and due to their degree of "insanity" were locked into a psychiatric high security facility. Violence against each other and staff members were a common occurrence.

In 1987, after 3 years of working at the ward, wrist and ankle restraints were no longer used in the facility. Violence was almost non-existent and usually only involved new patients. New off-site activities were introduced and the energy of the entire ward was greatly improved to the point that the whole unit was closed due to lack of need. Patients improved, and were released or moved into other non-violent wards.

How did such a miraculous change take place within this facility? According to Dr. Hew Len, along with witnesses and other personnel, he did not do any therapy or counseling with patients, nor did he attend any staff conferences on patients. He simply reviewed each patient's file and practiced the Ho'oponopono process on a daily basis. This included accepting 100% responsibility for everything being experienced by him.

You are probably wondering how this works and how he managed to heal these violent patients without even seeing them in person. His answer was, "I didn't heal them. I healed part of myself that created them." He explained that we are 100% responsible for everything.

Wait, what? This is a hard concept to try and grasp. The concept goes like this, everything happens and is created in your mind. Everything you see, everything you hear, every person you meet, you experience in your mind. You only think it's "out there" and you think that means that you are not responsible. Dr. Hew Len believes that it actually works quite the opposite...you are responsible for everything you think and everything that comes to your attention. This may sound harsh and impossible, but the good news is that this means that you are also able to then clear it, clean it and through forgiveness change it.

Cleaning is the actual Ho'oponopono practice. Cleaning what you might be asking yourself? You clean your mind from subconscious garbage and pollution. Programs and stories that run and replay in your mind and your life without (or even with) your participation. The Ho'oponopono practice is simple, It consists of repeating the following phrases just like a mantra:

I'm sorry,
Please forgive me,
I love you,
Thank you

Repeating these phrases energizes the self-transformation process and it's exactly what Dr. Hew Len did to cause divine transformation at the Hawaii State Hospital. The most powerful and impactful phrases are " I love you" and "thank you". The importance and power of love and gratitude are undeniable.

You might be wondering, who do I say these phrases to? The practice says to just say them. There is no need to feel anything special or imagine anything specific. You just repeat the phrases and the cleaning process just happens. You can clean life situations and relationships. When something comes to your awareness, accept 100% responsibility and then repeat the phrases. No guilt trips, no analyzing, no judgments, simply utilize the practice. Divinity does the rest. The Ho'oponopono practice is a prayer of letting go and letting God heal it.

I invite you to give a try. Don't over analyze it, don't try and figure it out, just give it a try and see what happens. I instantly feel a shift when I practice the technique. I would love to hear your experience with it.

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A Journey

7/10/2017

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I'm guessing that you've heard the saying, "Life is a journey, not a destination"? It's pretty easy to see the meaning of this phrase, as well as our reflection in it.

I have another idea about this journey we call life that I would like to explore. It goes like this, "My journey is just that, my journey. Your journey is just that too, your journey." Sometimes it's easy for us to make the assumption that we know what is "right" or "wrong" for someone else's journey. The truth is that unless I've had the exact same life experiences, and have the exact same personality, and have the exact same hopes and dreams, and the exact same everything, I can't possibly know what your journey is exactly and therefore have no real ability to judge what is "right" or "wrong" for it.

It's interesting how we can feel like we are an expert when it comes to someone else's life, but then not be an expert at handling our own problems. I have fallen into this mindset on occasion, offering up my commentary, advice and opinion on how someone else should lead their life. Even to the point of feeling good about my life and my choices in comparison to the other. This mindset is scary and can lead to a dreary place of judgment which is easy for us to feed off of if we are not careful.

A philosophy that I am working to live by is not to judge someone else's choice or reasoning and not to offer up unsolicited advice. Typically, our judgment of others is a reflection of our own self-judgment. Our own self-judgment is so normal to us that we often don't even recognize it. Ponder that one for a moment. It can be a tough one to recognize and acknowledge.

Another trap I sometimes catch myself in is that as I seek change for myself, it can be easy for me to to seek or expect that same change for others. Making a determination for how others should behave or what is acceptable for them. Have you ever noticed yourself doing this too?

Life is truly a journey filled with joy and celebrations, but also with lessons, hardships and heartache. The roadway will not always be straight and smooth, but rather it may be windy, bumpy and full of challenges. Some of these challenges will test us...our courage, our resilience, and our faith. Sometimes these challenges are really blessings in disguise, they make us stronger and teach us valuable lessons.

If our path is "perfect" or always the "right" one and we never experience "failing", never detour, then our opportunity for growth and learning life lessons is also diminished.

Wouldn't it be better if we all respected each other's journey and put our focus and energy on our own journey through life? Realizing that our journey is solely ours and nobody else's and vice versa. Embracing our own personal journey and letting go of the need to judge someone else's. Using our mental energy and our time to propel ourselves forward instead of diverting our focus by judging others or playing the comparison game.

Blogger Maria Moraca offers up some strategies that I've found useful to help transform judgments:

1. Use a pattern interrupt - When you catch yourself having a defining thought about someone, step back and ask, “What do I really know about this person?” Often, the answer is a version of “not very much.” This behavior acts as a pattern interrupt, and forces you to stop and consider where the judgment is coming from.

2. Switch to praise - When you hear yourself criticizing someone, stop and take a moment to come up with one thing you like about that person. Then praise them, out loud, for that quality. This is another version of a pattern interrupt, and is also a reminder that they too are human, and like us all, have both attractive and not-so-attractive qualities.

3. Look within - When you find yourself in one of those incessant loop thought patterns of judgment about someone else’s behaviors, ask the hard question: Do I myself exhibit this same behavior or attitude that I judge in this person? Almost always, the answer is yes (not that one always comes to that yes easily). You probably already know that the stuff that irritates us the most about others tends to be attributes we don’t necessarily realize we ourselves have.

I invite you to embrace your own journey more fully and to release judgment about the journey of others. It's a practice and it takes effort to get better at it. Your life experience and journey is solely for you and their life experience and journey is solely for them.

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We Are All Broadcasters

6/27/2017

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Did you know that you are a broadcaster? Yep, you don't need the title of Newsperson or the official title of Broadcaster to be one. We are all broadcasters and pretty powerful and impactful ones at that!

We are constantly broadcasting through what we think, what we believe, what we feel, what we say, through our actions, and ultimately through our energy. We are impacting people every moment of every day with our thoughts, beliefs and our energy.

Sometimes it's easy for us to forget that we are broadcasting. Sometimes it's easy for me personally to think that I'm not impacting anyone but myself. I may be willing to sit with the consequences that my energy has on myself and be in denial that I'm impacting other people. Fact of the matter is though, that we are broadcasting that energy out into our home, our workplace, our community, our world, and into the universe.

What have you been broadcasting lately? Is it impacting yourself or people around you in a positive way? Is your message an uplifting positive one? Is it filled with love and hope, or is it filled with fear and hate? Is your message shouting gratitude, empathy, compassion and forgiveness, or is it shouting scarcity, separation, indifference and blame?

Did you know that what you broadcast predicts success? The fields of positive psychology and neuroscience indicate that small shifts in what we broadcast can create big ripple effects on business and educational outcomes.

We are all broadcasters. As employees, parents, spouses, neighbors and friends, we transmit information to the people around us, and the messages we choose to broadcast create success or hold us back.

I believe that it's important that we understand and take ownership over how and what we broadcast. It's not always easy, but I start off each day reminding myself and I continue to remind myself throughout the day. The more our broadcast comes from a place of love and kindness the better the ripple of change.

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Your Legacy Is Every Life You've Touched

6/14/2017

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When I was in my 20's I used to lay in my bed at night thinking about what my legacy would look like. I would envision my funeral and picture who would attend and what would be said about me. I tried to determine what impact I was having on the world and the lives of those who I loved.

At that time, I was searching to find who I was, what I was doing in life and working to feel okay with it. Working to feel enough...was I was being who I should be and doing what I should be doing?

It was a selfish phase in my life and a phase where I was looking for approval and confirmation from others, from outside of myself. I wondered if people were proud of me, if they would miss me if I were no longer here. If I made enough of an impact.

Fast forward to today. Now I am searching and seeking for my own approval. I want to be proud of myself. I don't want to let myself down. I don't want to have major regrets in life. I'm working to lead an authentic life where I am being exactly who I am and doing what I am supposed to be doing. I listen to my inner voice, my intuition, my higher self and work to follow its guidance.

I work to be in alignment with my authentic self. To live in a state of integrity where my inner self is the same as my outer self. To take off the masks, the hats and the coats that we often wear to try and be who we think others, or society, wants us to be.

Through all of this I still think about what do I want to stand for? What type of legacy do I want to create? I love the Maya Angelou quote, "Your legacy is every life you've touched." And Oprah said, "Fill everything with love, because every moment you are building your legacy." I think that's a beautiful way to look at what creates a legacy. Every moment, no matter how small it may seem is touching a life and creating a legacy. Every moment creates a ripple, big or small. Something that may seem inconsequential to us, may in fact mean a lot to the person we are interacting with.

Every time we touch someone with an interaction based on love we are creating our legacy. Every time we touch someone with an interaction based on fear we are creating our legacy. Every time we look the other way and ignore touching someone's life, we are creating a legacy. Never underestimate the ripples you are creating.

What about you, do you think about the legacy that you are creating? What do you think creates a legacy? I would love to hear your feedback. Drop me a comment or send me an email!

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What Breaks Your Heart?

6/13/2017

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What breaks your heart? What is it that keeps you awake at night? What is it that you feel passionate about, what deeply moves you? Do you know the answer, have you given it deep thought?

I believe that now is the time that the world needs each of us to ponder and be able to answer those questions. And beyond being able to answer the questions, to make a commitment to take action, to create a ripple, to help make a change for the better. A ripple to alleviate some suffering in the world. A ripple to bring more light to the darkness.

For some what breaks their heart might be children who are hungry, for others it might be discrimination and race inequality, for some it might be domestic abuse, for others it might be animals or the environment. Whatever it is for you, I invite you to ask the question of yourself and then ask the question of your loved ones. I encourage you to choose one cause that carries deep meaning for you and commit to uniting others whose heart breaks for that same reason. Together take action toward creating ripples of positive change. Even if you don't think you have the time, or the money, or the resources, take a small baby step in the direction of change. Your small step is creating powerful ripples out into the world.

Some people are calling this sacred activism. Sacred activism weaves sacred consciousness, service, passion, love, compassion and peace with action. Our current economic, political, social and spiritual climate is a call to action. Now is the time to act. I've mentioned in previous posts that it's not enough to just be empathetic, it's not enough to just pray...action is needed.

What has been your excuse? I know that I've had my excuses that I've been telling myself for a long time. Excuses that I am no longer letting hold me back in a place of fear. For me, feeling overwhelmed by the suffering is no longer okay, sitting in denial is no longer okay, living in a bubble and pretending that it doesn't go on, or that I can't do anything about it is no longer okay, believing that I am just one person and that I can't make a difference is no longer okay, telling myself that I don't like to get involved in politics, or that I don't have enough time or money is no longer okay. Now is the time to activate. Now is the time to exercise more empathy and compassion and forgiveness. Now is the time to ramp up your practice of gratitude and prayer and mindfulness. And now is also the time to activate.

Find what IN-spires you and focus on that versus focusing on what EX-pires you. We are one, one collective. When one suffers, we all suffer. We have the power to create ripples and be impactful. We are all way more powerful than we realize.

Come to the table and be part of the solution. Through your actions inspire others, giving them the permission they may long for to act on what breaks their heart. Be of service, a vessel and conduit for good. Don't sit on the sidelines while others create the ripple. Jump into life and be empowered. Become a sacred activist.

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10 Pennies

6/6/2017

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I recently listened to a video interview with Chester Elton as part of the Global Stress Summit. The focus of the interview was workplace appreciation. I want to share with you some of my take aways from this interview and in particular a wonderful example of a daily practice of gratitude and appreciation that I learned.

Chester Elton is an author, motivational speaker and a workplace expert. He believes that when people leave their jobs more times than not it has nothing to do with the money, it has to do with not feeling valued and appreciated. He says that in the workplace, and society as a whole, we are quick to criticize and slow to praise. When we make a mistake it's recognized 100% of the time and when we do something great we are not recognized 100% of the time. Nobody feels over valued at work, or typically for that matter at home either. How often have you felt over valued at your work or home?

He gave a wonderful example of a daily practice that an effective manager does everyday. He calls it the 10 pennies practice. Every morning this manager starts out by putting 10 pennies in his left pocket. His intention is to have 10 positive interactions or acts of appreciation throughout the day. He would keep track of how many he had by moving a penny from his left pocket to his right pocket after each positive interaction. He accomplished his interactions either in person, through an email or text message, or with a phone call. What an awesome reminder to have pennies of positivity and appreciation jiggling around in your pocket as a gentle reminder of your intention for the day.

Some days we might get 10 of these positive interactions in without hardly trying. On other days it might be easy to move through the day and maybe only have 2 or 3. I like the idea of having a way to keep the intention in our awareness through the pennies in the pocket. Wouldn't it be an awesome world if we all carried 10 pennies and consciously worked each day to create 10 positive/appreciative interactions with our fellow humankind?

Chester Elton also noted that there is a difference between praising effort and rewarding results. He says that we need people to cheer for us when things are not going great more than when things are going great. Sharing encouraging words when there is a struggle and celebrating the small wins along the way will go a long way toward keeping momentum going in the right direction. People end up feeling supported and valued along the way.

I also loved his suggestion for how to deal with a challenging leader within your workplace that you wish you could change. He says that the answer is to value and appreciate them. Then you can ask, "How did that make you feel?" Share with them that your team deserves to feel that same way too.

I invite all of us to practice ramping up our positive interactions and acts of appreciation this week. Try the 10 pennies practice or think up some other creative way to keep the intention in your awareness and keep track of your progress. We can all use feeling more valued and appreciated at home and in the workplace. Give it a shot and let me know how it goes!

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