Especially at this time of the year we can fall into the comparison trap. Whether it's who is getting what for Christmas, or what other's holiday plans look like. Or maybe it's reflecting on the year as it's coming to an end and comparing the path that your life has taken compared to others. Or whether it's looking toward the upcoming year and comparing what might lie ahead for you to others. However you slice it comparison is stealing your contentment, stealing your happiness, stealing your joy. Drawing a comparison between ourself, and our life, to that of others is a reflection of our dissatisfaction with ourself.
When comparing our life to someone else's we are drawing a comparison to what our perception is of that other person and their life, which may or may not reflect reality. Remember the old saying the grass is always greener? I feel that comparing is judging, making a determination of what appears to be better than the other. Comparing ourselves with someone else is an inaccurate and irrelevant measuring stick.
Either way you cut it, comparison doesn't feel good. You either feel like you're on the short end which makes you feel negative about your situation, or you feel like you're on the uptick. Whenever we have to play the comparison game in order to make ourselves feel good, in order to fill a hole within us, by proving that we are somehow bigger and better ends up not filling that hole. It's a never-ending dark hole of dissatisfaction. At its core, at its heart, righteousness comes from a feeling of lack. What I lack in myself, I seek to puff up through my righteousness. It’s impossible for us to sustain happiness in our lives if we jump into the comparison game.
We all were born unique, different from everybody else in our own splendidly authentic variation. The only masterful creation we have to work with is ourself. It's more productive and useful for us to focus on being the best version of ourself that we can be.
I invite you to get out of the comparison mode. Instead work on being the best version of yourself that you can be. Instead remember how grateful you are for where you are in the present moment. Instead exercise self-love and self-compassion with who you are and where you are in life. Enjoy the journey with the knowledge that it is your journey and your story, not anyone else's.
Were you able to complete a random act of kindness this past week? I would love to hear about it! Let's challenge ourselves to reach out again this week and brighten someone's day with another act of kindness. Let's finish out 2015 with some brightness!!!
I am trying something new this week! It was suggested to me that I include a video of my weekly blog post to make it easier for some to hear me while they are commuting to and from work, or while exercising, or making dinner, instead of waiting to read it. So, here is my very first blog video! I wasn't planning to post it this week, I was just playing around with how to do it, but I decided what the heck why not include it! Yikes, I am not comparing myself to those who do this all the time :)