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Curiosity killed the cat

5/19/2015

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I think we've probably all heard this phrase at some point growing up. Either by a teacher, or a parent, or other adult. Most likely in response to the endless questions that are typically posed by a young child. Why? Why? Why? I can still hear it ringing in my ears from when my children were much younger. 

I feel like over the course of time we either lose some of that curiosity, or it is suppressed in order to not be seen as a nuisance to those around us. I feel like we are also taught to not question authority, to not question society, to not question the status quo, to not question our teachers, our leaders, our elders, our politicians, etc. It seems as though we over time lose a lot of that childlike curiosity. We to some degree stop questioning, stop being curious, stop learning. 

On some level maybe we don't want to give away that it's something we don't already know. To be curious implies that we don't already have all of the answers. God forbid should someone think we don't already know, or even worse that we are weird for asking.

Or is it that as adults we don't have the time to be curious? We are so busy with our lives and running on the hamster wheel that we simply don't have the time, capacity, desire to engage in the effort of being curious. 

I was recently listening to an episode of Oprah's Super Soul Sunday, where she was interviewing film and television producer Brian Grazer about his new book, A Curious Mind: The Secret to a Bigger Life. I love Brian's ideas on expanding our curiosity, a trait he attributes to his success and says should be as much a part of our culture as creativity and innovation. Brian made a decision early on in his career to seek out "curiosity conversations" with at least one new person each day. He stresses how all of us can benefit from this practice of stepping outside our comfort zones. 


Brian discussed and gave examples of how these "curiosity conversations" helped his career, opened up doors for him, and caused him to be a more connected and interesting person. I love the idea of engaging in curiosity conversations. Conversations where we are just really trying to connect with another human being and learn about them, their life, their interests, their passions, their career, their thoughts, their opinions. What an easy and powerful way to gain awareness of our world, gain perspective, see life through another lens, gain empathy, gain knowledge. 

Here's another way to look at the concept of holding "curiosity conversations"...We've all had conversations with people where we walk away feeling good about the person, like they heard us, were interested in us, and we've all had conversations where we walked away and felt like we were "talked to" or not understood, not heard, or where the person wasn't really present. I aspire for my interactions with people to end with them feeling acknowledged versus disregarded. We've all felt the difference. Have them walk away feeling good about their interaction with me.

The concept of leading a curious life appeals to me. I don't want to squelch my curiosity or that of my children. I don't want to follow the status quo, or what someone, or what society tells me I should be thinking or asking about. I don't want to be so busy all the time that I don't have a few minutes to engage in a real conversation with the person next to me. It's important for us to explore, to question, to engage in life. Be curious about other people, be curious about where our food comes from, be curious about our spirituality, be curious about a country we are visiting, be curious about other cultures and races, be curious about what our heart is telling us, be curious about our purpose, the list is endless. 


I love this quote from Elizabeth Gilbert, "A curiosity-driven life is a beautiful thing. Following your curiosity begins a scavenger hunt that can lead you to amazing places...It might even lead you to your passion."

I'm looking forward to engaging in some "curiosity conversations", I hope that you are too! Please share with me if you have any interesting discoveries upon being a more curious person!

Sidenote:
Everyone knows that, despite its supposed nine lives, curiosity killed the cat. Well, not quite. The 'killed the cat' proverb originated as 'care killed the cat'. By 'care' the coiner of the expression meant 'worry/sorrow' rather than our more usual contemporary 'look after/provide for' meaning. Now that I can get onboard with...Worry killed the cat :)
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Brittany
5/19/2015 11:46:36 pm

This post reminded my of my favorite quote by Rainer Maria Rilke: "I beg you, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”

It reminds me to live a life of curiosity, but to also be content not knowing everything right now. It's a balance of learning and patience, thank you for the reminder Tracy!

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Tracy
5/20/2015 01:13:22 am

Wow, what a deep and amazing quote. Thank you for sharing it with me. I am now planning to use it as part of my Own Your Higher Purpose Workshop :)

I think sometimes we all feel a little impatient and desire to have all of the answers right now. When what we really need to do is to remain open and curious as to the questions and have faith that the answers will reveal themselves along the way, sometimes without us even noticing it. Adam reminded me the other day to enjoy the journey right now while it is happening and not always be looking for the destination, another similar concept. It is definitely a balance of learning and patience. Thank you Britt!

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