It's not only impacting other people, but also it is telling the story of who we are. Our words share our story and frame who we are and what we believe to be truth. Our words create and reinforce either a positive or negative perspective, and ultimately a story. What story are you telling about who you are everyday?
I have to do this and I have to do that. I think we might all be surprised at how many times we automatically default to this type of word choice. The words "I have to" contains a negative implication of an unwanted obligation.
Resetting the phrase to something like "I get to" or "I choose to" or "I want to" changes the connotation to a positive. It indicates positivity, acceptance, appreciation and gratitude. This subtle shift is powerful in our brain and the vibration that is sent out into the universe.
Is it "I have to go to the grocery store." or is it "I am choosing to go to the grocery store." Because truth is, we really don't have to do most things unless we choose to right? We don't have to go to the dentist, we don't have to go to a dinner party, we don't even have to go to work. We are making choices, choices that benefit us in some way. Turn it around for a moment and think of the choice and the benefit.
The words we choose are important. They are impactful to ourselves and to others and create our story and our world. I "get to" creates an entirely different life experience than "I have to" does. What are you creating? What do you want to create? I am working on switching the "have to's" to "I get to" or "I choose to". I invite you to work on creating this subtle word and perspective shift in your life as well.
And remember, today's challenges...the "I have to's" (yardwork, kids, jobs, family, friends) most times were yesterday's dreams...
Here is a short, less than two minute, video on shifting from the "have to" mindset to the "get to" mindset. Enjoy!