I recently saw a post by Brene Brown and felt the truth in it. Love can be messy, it's not always roses, hearts and candy. Whether it be romantic love, or love for a child, sibling, parent, or friend it can be messy and a shit ton of work to practice. Here is what Brene wrote:
Love is easy to profess and a shit ton of work to practice. Stay brave, awkward, and kind this week.
We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection.
Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.
Love is messy, it's both easy and hard. It can bring out the best in us and the worst. I know that I mess it up a lot. I lose my cool and say something hurtful, I get self-absorbed, I get impatient, I make assumptions and judgments, I do unwanted favors and then attach expectations. The list goes on and on.
It's hard work and takes practice, lots and lots of practice. Sometimes we mess it up and we don't get it right. Love is messy, It's not always roses, hearts and candy, but the best things in life are often messy. There can be magic in the mess.
Yes, there is magic in the mess. There's magic in being vulnerable, to letting others in and in putting yourself out there, in the discovery and progression. Magic in experiencing life with all of its beauty and struggle.
This Valentine's Day may you open your heart wider to love. May you be brave and pull down the walls, be vulnerable and live and love wholeheartedly. May you open your heart wider today to Divine love. May you feel it, embrace it and be inspired by it today. Wishing you love beyond measure this Valentine's Day and everyday.