Fear is the opposite of love. Marianne Williamson in her book A Return to Love says, " Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we have learned here. The spiritual journey is the relinquishment, or unlearning, of fear and the acceptance of love back into our hearts. Love casts out sin or fear the way light casts out darkness."
Fear is unbelief, it is rooted in self. Fear is synonymous with ego. Ego is that fear-based voice that shows up and keeps us small and keeps us stuck.
In the book, The Knowing, the authors write, "If someone squeezed you , what would come out? If you are in a situation in which there is a conflict, what will come out of you? Is it love or fear, anger or hatred? Whatever you carry around within you is what emerges when you are in difficult situations, or when you are 'squeezed,' so become a person that only has love to give ... carry that inside, and only that."
The authors go on to say, "Every situation can be perceived as an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. The choice is ultimately yours. In every conflict that arises in your life, ask yourself, 'Am I coming from a place of love?' Even in situations where we do not feel a person deserves our love, we are challenged to get to a point in our lives where we come from love not because someone else deserves or doesn't deserve it but because love is all we are in ourselves, and therefore it is all we have to give away."
So, what you can do when you are feeling 'squeezed' and something other than love is coming up for you? This can be challenging depending on the experience and our triggers. I'm a big believer in the power of journaling and it can really helpful in this situation.
When you are experiencing something that is causing you to feel hurt/upset/disappointed, etc. consider writing a letter to the problem. Through the act of writing a lot of times we gain clarity and inspiration, or simply relief from the ability to "vent" it out and express it on paper. Writing can help to shift the energy of the problem and start the healing process instead of us getting stuck in the challenge.
Next time you are experiencing a challenge, consider using journaling as a tool for the energy of love to be squeezed out of you. The more you practice it the stronger your love muscle will become and the more the energy of love and harmony will come forth.