Every holiday season, as I think about my own life and reflect upon what my family and what many of the people around me are going through right now, I’m reminded that struggle doesn’t take off for the holidays. As a lover of Christmastime, my mantra has become “the magic is in the mess” and I always like to post a little love note to myself and our communities.
We need to be kind with ourselves and remember that the gremlins don’t go on vacation. Checks bounce, chemotherapy appointments are scheduled, interventions are planned, relationships keep unravelling, being alone feels even lonelier, parents negotiate who will have the kids on Christmas morning, and the “never enoughs” are in full swing.
As I prepare to spend the next few days with my family and friends, my goal is to practice love and gratitude with the special group of folks who keep showing up and loving me, not despite my vulnerabilities and imperfections, but because of them.
I'm grateful for our community. For your generosity and the respectful way that we move forward together!
The Christmas lights, trees, decorations, cards, neatly wrapped gifts and carefully decorated cookies are beautiful and magical, but to me, the real beauty comes in finding the magic amongst the busyness, physical mess, emotional mess, relationship mess, through any and all of the imperfections. Looking through all of the mess and working to find the magic.
Remembering that beautiful and hard can coexist in the same breath, in the same moment. Finding the moment of connection with love, connection with gratitude, connection with compassion. Sitting with the messiness and looking past it to the magical spirit. Remembering that we are perfectly imperfect humans walking this earth and doing our best.
May we see the magic in the mess this holiday season, however that looks for each of us. May we savor the moments of connection. Wishing you and your loved ones a very joyous and loving holiday season!