As Theodore Roosevelt stated, "Comparison is the thief of joy." Comparing yourself with someone else is an inaccurate and irrelevant measuring stick and not only that, it steals away your own amazing superpower when you attempt to wear a mask and be someone you are not. It’s impossible to be the best version of yourself, if you jump into the comparison game.
We are all born unique, different from everybody else in our own splendidly authentic variation. The only masterful creation you have to work with is yourself and it's more productive to focus on being the best version of yourself that you can be. I remind myself regularly that the only person I should compare myself to and work to be better than is the person I was yesterday.
How well do you know yourself and your strengths, your own superpowers at a foundational level? Do you know what your needs are, what environments best suit you, how to keep from feeling drained, how to best re-energize yourself when you do feel drained? Do you know your own leadership traits? How well do the people who closely interact with you know you and your needs?
I'm referring to you in your most natural state, your inborn temperament without the masks that we wear to meet our perception of the expectations of the world. We are all born with our very own temperament, it’s rooted in the core of who we are. Newborn babies exhibit from birth different temperaments and tendencies they are not born a blank slate.
Layered on top of our temperament is the impact of humans and the environment on us. This is called our character. At birth, we begin interacting with our environment and our environment interacts with us. The environment is everything we see, hear, smell, feel and learn. These perceptions are forever locked into our brain, and they slightly mold and alter our temperament, thereby forming character.
Our personality is what the majority of the world sees. Our personality is expressed in the way we perceive how we must behave to survive in the world in which we live. This may or may not be part of our temperament or character. It's what most of the world who don't know us well experience of us.
In order to thrive and become the best version of ourself that we can be it's critical that we have self-awareness, that we are intimately familiar with who we are, what makes us tick and what our needs are. Making healthy connections with others starts with an understanding of our connection with self.
A new service that I'm offering is a temperament analysis profile assessment. The results of the analysis builds self-awareness, allowing us to understand our needs and how to make stronger intentional connections with others. It identifies our unique superpowers, how to optimize them, and strategies for shoring up our challenging areas to become the best version of ourself. If you are interested in learning more let me know or check out the website at www.intentionalconnectionsllc.com.